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Do you ever do this?
Be hella excited that all episodes of your show 'Youth and Consequences' come out on YouTube Red on March 7th?
Well yes, obviously, thank you.
But until March 7th when you can binge all episodes of Youth and Consequences on YouTube Red,
I'm talking about when a friend discusses their problems with you.
Do you immediately say, "Oh, you know what you should do?"
I've noticed recently that I have a pattern.
I offer unsolicited advice all the time when my friends have problems.
And I know the intentions are good,
because when we see someone we care about suffering,
our impulse is to, like, help and to fix them and to give them anything that they need.
But the more that I do this, the more withdrawn my friends become.
Their eyes glaze over, they sort of nod automatically, there's this wall put up between us.
So I decided to try not giving any advice unless it was specifically asked of me.
And it made me realize just how much I wanna do that all the time,
even in really little ways.
"Have you tried yoga?"
"Ooh, I just saw a great TED talk on that, I'll send it to you."
"I had the same exact problem, let me tell you what I did."
"You know, you should really try yoga."
But I resisted the temptation to solve all of my friends' problems and instead would try to really explore their feelings
by asking them questions like:
"How does that make you feel?"
"Wow that sounds really hard. How are you handling it?"
"I totally understand why you're upset. What do you think you're gonna do?"
And something happened.
My conversations became so much more engaging and deep and fulfilling.
Instead of feeling like I had to fix everything,
I just let myself be a sounding board for whatever someone was feeling.
And really tried to explore that.
And my friendships changed dramatically.
They felt more loving, more personal, and more open.
Now, I have this one friend who's a conversational narcissist.
It's like, no matter what you say, he will bring the conversation back to himself.
And I used to harbour a lot of resentment for it, but it's you know,
it's one of those annoying quirks and flaws about a person that you love
that you just sort of put up with because you love them.
So I thought implementing this with him was going to be particularly interesting.
And I found that we would dive so deeply into his problems,
and I would let him express everything he was feeling about, every single thing that he had to say
and would just keep the spotlight on him to the point that he sort of like
ran out of stuff to say about himself, and then would turn the conversation to me.
And be fully present with me, and let me talk out my problems because
he's been sorta spent.
Now, maybe you're not like me and you're not a person who offers unsolicited advice all the time.
But let me advise you to try this out with your next conversation.
Maybe in the next couple of conversations.
See how it goes.
Be fully present, be really engaged with the person and not thinking about how you're going to respond.
I learned many a fascinating things,
and a lot of my relationships became deeper and more amazing because of it.
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別急著給建議,讓你成為更好的朋友 (One thing that makes you a better friend)

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Carol Chen 發佈於 2018 年 5 月 26 日    Carol Chen 翻譯    Evangeline 審核



1binge 0:10
binge 有「盡情享用」的意思,在這裡是「追劇」。但由於其本身放縱的特色,binge 常帶有負面意涵。例如,binge eating 是「暴食」、binge drinking 則是「酗酒」。除了當動詞使用之外,binge 也可以當名詞使用。
I binged an entire season of my favorite TV series during the long weekend.

我們為什麼緊張? (Why Do We Get Nervous?)

2impulse 0:31
impulse 的意思是「衝動」。如果要表達某人衝動行事,可以說 act on impulse。衝動購物 (買的東西) 則是 impulse purchase。「衝動的」這個形容詞是impulsive
A shopping list prevents you from making impulse purchases.

It was rather impulsive of me to quit my job after a heated argument with a colleague.

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3handling 1:14
handle 當動詞用是「處理」的意思,但如果是針對人,就是「對待、應付」的意思。
It is very tricky to handle overbearing parents when you are still financially dependent on them.

narcissist 是「自戀的人」的意思,字根源自希臘神話中,在水中倒影看到自己姣好面容而溺死的美少年 Narcissus。「自戀」這個形容詞則是 narcissistic
A real narcissist, that is, someone with narcissistic personality disorder, is incapable of loving and caring about others. Everything they do is solely driven by self-interest.

5spotlight 2:07
spotlight 是舞台上的「聚光燈」,衍生的意思是「眾人矚目的焦點」,同義詞是 center of attention
Some people enjoy the spotlight, while others are content with staying behind the scenes.

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